Tuesday, 10 January 2017

5 Comments Bloggers and YouTubers Generally Hate

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Hello Everyone,

It's been a while since we had a Top 5 post on here, what with Christmas and all the rush, my usual posting topics have been a little haywire but I'm back again with another Top 5.

Last year my Top 5 posts were some of your favourites, my favourite Top 5's were:

Top 5 Things Disney Failed to Prepare Me For
Top 5 Worst PR Emails I've Ever Had
Top 5 Worst Things About Living With A Man
Top 5 Reasons I Have Beef With Barbie - and no, this isn't a body image post.

But today I'm going to have a little rant about something that has been driving me crazy the last couple of months and that is:

Top 5 Comments Bloggers and YouTubers Generally Hate

Number 1: - "Great"

I am a fan of writing fun posts, Top 5s or beauty reviews when I compare a body cream to Kate Middleton... that sort of thing, but I also like to get serious in these parts too, like when I discussed the adverse effects of FOMO (That's Fear of Missing Out) or when I talked about the horror that is Female Genital Mutilation and on these types of posts (where the topic isn't all light and fluffy) getting a comment such as 'great' or 'this is perfect!!'  is really bloody annoying! So Female Genital Mutilation is great? You didn't read what I'd written did you? No.
To top it off, you just spammed me your link, I like to go and leave a comment on any links I am sent but not when it's obvious you're not a reader, you're a spammer.

Number 2: - "Follow for Follow?"

Same as above, spam! I don't know how many times this has to be discussed on twitter chats, comment sections, blog posts and videos, seriously people! Please, for the love of google, stop with the follow for follow, because most of us won't go for it.

Number 3: - Fight Club

This is something I've been getting on my YouTube Channel since I uploaded a video about the book 'Everyday Sexism' (you can see that video here) and in this video I discuss some worrying points, trends and stats that this brilliant book highlighted to me, this was a book that really opened my eyes to the amount of sexism in Britain today, but here's the little twist... the book also discusses some of the sexism that men face which I mentioned in my video... Unfortunately a select few men have seen me sitting there with a book about sexism and haven't listened to a word I've said... I've had emails, tweets and a couple of comments from men that I can only describe as tossers Complete Idiots either kicking off calling me a man hater, a privileged idiot jumping on a bandwaggon or anything else they please (and a couple of the emails have been unpleasant to say the least)  when if they'd bloody watched the video, they would see me say nothing of the sort.
For the record, I don't hate men, I've had some very good male friends and hell, I'm married to a legit member of the male species - complete with xbox and FIFA for god sake! 
There are always people around that just want a fight and will actively search for videos or posts about subjects they want to row about, these people are morons, lesson over.

Number 4: - Unwanted Religion

This has been another annoying trend I've seen on YouTube. I watch a lot of storytimes on YouTube, I love hearing about the lives of others and I've also uploaded a couple of my own paranormal storytimes (such as my first Ouija Board experience) but on my ouija board videos I received a persistent commenter who was desperate to tell me I needed to repent, to be christened and to find God etc etc, simply due to the content of this video... I've seen similar annoying comments on the storytimes of others and seriously, what do these commenters think they will achieve? They have no idea if I'm already Christened or religious or anything, same thing with the other channels I've seen this on, it's invasive and unwanted, please stop.

Number 5: - "LOL"

As I've mentioned, I do like a good light hearted post, a bit of a laugh now and then but sometimes I do write a normal or serious post, and when these posts (or videos) receive a comment saying "LOL!!!" (or similar) I'm not quite sure where to go with that... What does it mean? Where am I going? Did I have something on my face? Why are we laughing????? 
It's just a comment that's sure to throw me right off, every single time... Probably why people leave it to be fair.

So that's my Top 5 Comments I hate getting, let me know if you've experienced similar ones yourself.

Rosy xx


Tuesday, 3 January 2017

Just Say No

Hello Everyone and Happy New Year to you all.

I don't know about you, but, as the New Year rolls in for me I am usually too full of turkey, cheese boards and continental meat and deli platters to make any rational decisions and this is surely why everyone makes the solemn promise to themselves around the 1st January that they will finally become a gym bunny and have a body like a Russian ballet dancer by February... not me, no no, as I sit here biting into some spare yule log I found hidden in my car, I'm going to make a slightly more attainable goal for my tubby backside, Just Saying No.

The big thing for the last few years has been 'Just Say Yes', partly brought on no doubt by a post written by Zoella about her struggles with anxiety and the impact this had on her life. This was an inspiration to many and the idea of 'Just Saying Yes' to all your invites, events and gatherings was a liberation of sorts, but, has it gone too far?

With the popularity of the idea of 'FOMO' (that's Fear of Missing Out), saying yes to everything seems to be fast becoming the norm for all of us, companies are even catching onto the phrase and I've even had emails announcing that to avoid 'FOMO' I need to shop their sale, but where does it stop?

Just saying yes can be a bit of a disaster for me personally. I find myself running on empty sometimes with appointments, meet ups, activities I can't fully afford, lunch dates, play dates, couple dates, suggesting dates and then it's bed time and I feel like I've not stopped running since I woke up 16 hours earlier... meanwhile, my book that I've only managed to get 15 pages into is sat on the side whispering "book neglect" at me since I've not touched it in a week (disclaimer, I don't actually hear voices) and I just feel sad.

It actually didn't even hit home just how miserable I was making myself until I was talking to a friend who had three social gatherings to attend in a week and had just had to pay for an emergency repair and couldn't afford to go out, "Just Say No!" I advised and shit hit the fan my friend became animated, "I can't, I've said I'll go and they're expecting me to bring drinks and......."
That right there was the moment, just like when Bridget Jones realised that if she didn't shape up she would die alone eaten by Alsatians, I realised that if I didn't want to end up burnt out, lying on my bed crying that I'd not had a moment alone to read or think in the last 25 years, I needed to change my life mantra.

So this year I've decided I'm not going to try and lose weight (fruitless, I love food), Spend less (pointless, I've been saving all my pennies for holidays anyway), read more classics (I could... buuuuuttt I love my thrillers too much) or become a better me (I'll do for now). No, this year I've decided that I'm going to shun all of it and become more selfish, yes SELFISH, because being everything to everyone is exhausting! There, I've said it. Sometimes I don't want to go out, I don't want to get dressed and be polite, I just want to sit on my sofa and just be.

This year will be the year I learn to Just Say No.

If you enjoyed this post, why not try Are We All Terrified of Our Own Thoughts and, as always, if you're a big yes person and saying yes is what keeps you rolling, then keep it up! We are all different and we need different things to recharge our batteries but for me, finally saying no is a liberation.

Happy New Year,

Rosy xx

Tuesday, 20 December 2016

Your New Hairly Grail | Lee Stafford The Straightener and Giveaway

Hello Everyone,

As it is the last week before Christmas I just want to pop out a little Merry Christmas to any of you that celebrate!

So, as you probably know (or can guess) I trial a fair amount of products on this blog and I'm always thrilled to be given the opportunity to sample new things, thus, I'm super excited to tell you about my new holy hairly grail (see what I did there *chortles*) There's also a giveaway at the end of this post too so make sure you don't miss that.

Introducing the Lee Stafford Academy Ionic Flat Iron Hair Straightener

Now, I know what you're thinking:
But Rosy, come on, everyone uses GHDs
And I hear you, I do, I own a pair of GHDs and they've been my haircare staple for the past 4/5 years... and then these little bad boys arrived in my stash and I'm sorry to say, I think I've left camp GHD.
Let me tell you why.

Lee Stafford's The Straightener comes with a heat protection guard to look after the plates during storage and travel so you know that they're going to work well each time you use them.

With the Lee Stafford straighteners, you can control how hot your straightener goes with the pink buttons on the inside, which is one thing I've never liked about my GHDs because, as you may well know, they don't have any adjustable heat settings.

One thing that had me wanting my GHDs in the first place was the floating plates that means your hair doesn't get tangled in the plastic and your straightener glides easily through your hair, Lee Stafford heard us all and 'The Straightener' also has those all important floating plates and also, they added a longer cord (3m in comparison to the 2.7m of your standard v gold classic hair styler from GHD)

The straightener heats up to your chosen temperature really quickly (around 10 seconds) which is the fastest straightener I've used - and believe me when I say, I'm always in a mad rush and so those extra 20 seconds or so come in handy!

For those of you who follow my other social media channels (Instagram and YouTube) you'll be able to see that I quite like slightly 'messy' hair, I usually straighten my hair then mess it up with my hands and some dry shampoo so that my hair doesn't look too 'done'. I thought showing you a picture of my usually straight but messy look would be boring so I decided to try and test the Lee Stafford - The Straightener to see if I could get myself some nice messy curls, the results are below.

And yes, it was essential to have three selfies because I really love how this turned out, I made some tighter curls and then brushed them out in random sections to get the style right for me, if you're more into perfect curls, then just don't do the brush out at the end.

Overall, I'm so excited by these straighteners and they have officially replaced my trusty old GHDs, a day I never thought I'd see.

Have you tried the Lee Stafford Academy Ionic Flat Iron Straightener?

Also, make sure you enter the competition below to win yourself a Lee Stafford Straightener, the comp ends on 11th Jan 2017, good luck!

Win a Lee Stafford Academy Straightener #9

Rosy xx

Monday, 12 December 2016

Taking Time Out

Hello Everyone,

Today we are going to talk about taking a little time out.

Sometimes it can all get a little too much, especially at Christmas when there's so many people to consider that sometimes it can seem like you're driving full speed along the motorway with a blindfold on... basically, you're going to crash and burn unless you do something to slow that speed down and whip off the blindfold... #TakingTimeOut

I have a few favourite ways to unwind and rebuild myself and sometimes, just taking an hour out can really help keep your spirits high.

One of my favourite things to do is play with a pet, I have a few different animals roaming my zoo house and so I have a few options but I love a nice walk with my dogs or playing with my kitties. I recently added this little beauty to my clan and she's all kinds of fun.

 At other times I just like to play with my makeup, why not dress up with nowhere to go? I find it really relaxing to just try out a new look now and then.

As many of you also know, I love reading and taking some time to dip into another life or time really does wonders for my life morale! It also helps to keep my YouTube Channel filled with content so kind of a win/win situation there.

But I have to say, one of my favourite ways to unwind has to be a spot of retail therapy (when the funds allow it) and there's often a plethora of boxes from here, there and everywhere turning up at my door ('cause, you know... it's all for the blog *nudge nudge, wink wink*)
One of my most recent boxes arriving actually came all the way from Germany with thanks to a lovely company called Happiness Boutique, who kindly offered me my pick of their necklace collection and whilst I was browsing their range, I couldn't help but fall in love with this beautiful Rose Gold 'The Time is Now' Necklace.

I was really drawn to the time element of this necklace as I'm always rushing around complaining that I don't have enough time for anything.

The package arrived from Germany in a gorgeous little box (I know, I know, it's not about the packaging but still, what a cute box!) and when I opened it up, I fell in love with my new necklace.

Now yes, I know that I received this necklace free of charge and some would argue that would automatically warrant me giving out a biased review, but trust me when I say, I turn down A LOT of collabs because I only want to review things that I think I'll actually like or that I think you'll like to read about so it pleases me very much to say that I've not had this necklace off since I opened that pretty little box.

I feel like this necklace symbolises the need to slow down, take a step back and just take a little time for me and, for that, I am grateful.

Happiness Boutique have such a large and beautiful range including necklaces (obviously!), rings, earrings and even scarves! They offer free shipping too, which is a massive win, they're also offering any of my readers 10% off any order of 19 euros or more till the 31st December with the code 'sparklesoflight76' which, FYI, I'm not gaining any commission from for any of you suspicious of blogger codes 😉😉

Happiness Boutique also run a bi-monthly Giveaway, if you sign up to their newsletter... #justsaying.

How do you like to take time out to relax? Don't forget to give yourself a break over the festive time because you deserve it!

Rosy xx
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